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Category: “The Philosophical Side”
I base this article on several different books that I have read, but one in particular called “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” by Deepak Chopra (one of my favorite authors). In this book, he discusses the seven spiritual laws which naturally govern our lives. To me, the effects of these “laws” are just as obvious and natural as the law of gravity effects us. I have lived them and learned to recognize them often. If something here doesn’t equate with your personal belief system, that is fine. All I ask is that you take what you need, leave what you don’t.
Today I want to discuss the Law of Detachment, or for me… the law of letting go. It has, perhaps, been one of the most difficult things I’ve had to learn how to do in my life, but it has helped me to grow immensely. Dr. Chopra says this about detachment… “In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty…in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.”
How powerful is that? Whenever we need to move on from something in life and can’t seem to let go puts us in a horrible place. It makes us feel stuck, stagnant and heavy. That need to cling to the past comes from fear and insecurity and self doubt… our WORST enemies. It may sound odd… but when you need to move on in order to embrace growth, it helps to find security in insecurity. After I left my marriage… I had no where to go, no one to turn to. I knew that I was going to leave my job soon to pursue a career in Healing Arts. But how? Where would I go? How would I survive? Honestly, I had no idea. All I knew is that I had faith in myself. It was like stepping off a cliff with a blindfold on. All I had was INTENTION of knowing what I wanted. I did NOT have an answer for HOW I was going to get here. You know that old adage, “let go and let god?”… Well, read on.
The only way to get to that conclusion is to get used to letting go. Don’t give up your desire or intention…just be detached from the result. Let the Universe handle that part. Be very clear to yourself and your thoughts about what it is you want for yourself. You can get on the road and head to California in the dark. You can only see 200 feet of the road in front of you. Do you stop because you can’t see the all of the road that will get you to your destination? NO. You just have faith that the road will be there, and it will eventually get you wherever you intend to go.
I’ve been through so many storms of change in my life… I’ve almost grown to love change. Well, ok maybe not LOVE it but I certainly try to embrace it. I’ve learned the hard way. It started with my brother’s death when I was young, my divorce, giving up jobs with security, questioning where money would come from, and having unwaivering faith that my plan would just “work”, not knowing how. My experience has told me that change comes INEVITABLY, so you really must make the best of it. Resistance never does anything good. Resistance only tires you out and makes you OLD before your time. (But thats another article all together).I prefer to try and go with the ebb and flows of the tides of life, although it is a conscious process. You have to THINK about it and sort of convince yourself to LET go and let the universe handle the how’s of your life. My only job is to focus on WHAT I want. The Universe’s job is to figure out how to orchestrate it for me…and ohhhhhhh … what a song it has been so far.
So how about discussion? Does anyone have a story or words of wisdom to share? What are your experiences with letting go and the law of detachment?
Namaste,
Beth
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I have to say that I have been trying to let go recently. Let go of expectations and just not get bent out of shape about things that don’t really matter or that you have no real control over. Just to allow things to be and to allow it to work itself out. The perfectionist tendency that I have had much more in the past not only moved me forward, but it also held me back because I would be disappointed if what I had planned wasn’t going as planned and I would miss out on the fun of the moment. I have slowly started to learn to let go of perfectionist expectations and find that I am much less stressed. Also I think it is good to let go of those things that have hurt you in your past (if you are able to do that–I know easier said than done) because it allows you to grow, to make change. It isn’t like you are not acknowledging that the event didn’t happen, you just aren’t allowing it to control you and manipulate your life. I say this as I am about to experience a lot of change and of course I am scared and apprehensive, but I am willing to give it a shot. The worst thing in my mind is stagnation and the inability to step forward even if what comes at you isn’t exactly ideal. It will be one of those things to overcome and move forward and grow from.
Comment by literaryfitz • @ March 23, 2007 @ 11:57 am
Letting go is the hardest thing, specially if it is for the one you love. If trust has been broken in the past and you think everyday about forgiveness and about letting go. You practice letting go and then when you think you almost got there, something comes up to let you know that no..you still havent let go and yes it still hurts. The fear is still there, down deep inside. Its hiding and waiting to spring up on you , it knows your weakness, it knows which button pushed can create a havoc in your life..my life..! I can kid myself as much as I want, I am not changing, deep inside I am still afraid of losing the person I love. I know she cares, I know she loves me, I feel strong and then it happens ..i lose control when she doesnt pick up the phone..the fear overtakes me..I have lost a lot..help me, before i lose her too….
Comment by ritehere • @ July 11, 2007 @ 12:45 pm